Last week, I began writing on the subject above; I believe that there are mistakes that are avoidable in life provided that people are willing to seek knowledge and act on what they know. Knowledge isn’t power without action; I believe knowledge is amoral, what you do with what you know is what determines if you see the result you desire.
We all are prone to making mistakes in life; however, there are mistakes that have grave consequence. If such mistakes are made it will have a vibrating effect even to the future of the one who made it. Every mistake has a consequence; however, the repercussion of mistakes defers.
I really need to pass this to everyone that will be privilege to read this write up the word I heard Reverend Sam Adeyemi made; he said, ‘Experience is the best teacher o yes; but other peoples experience is the best teacher.’ I quite agree with him; you don’t have to learn something from experience, it may leave you with a scar that may be with you till death.
Here is the story and some of the write up on the last edition- John was one of the numerous young men who believe that a woman will succumb to them based on African tradition that gives the man unlimited power on how to run his own home. He saw that his dad was in charge at home; when he comes in (his dad) every one behaves like saints because of his authoritative nature. He was the carbon copy of his dad; looks, the air of authority and the rock like tendencies when he has made his decision on any matter.
However, presently he is having challenges with his wife because unlike his mum, she has become very expressive of her opinion on any issue. She would say what she wants done without owing him any apology and get it done. Malta had thought that over time he’ll drop some of his imposing attitude; since he was unwilling to change, she had made up her mind to damn the consequence of John’s action on any issue. She had bluntly refused to resign her appoint as he had threaten her to, nor is she willing to be kicked around the way his dad does to his mum.
There is one reality that I believe that is visible to every singles that will read this write up, and it’s the fact that marriages are collapsing at an alarming rate. I believe that most of divorce we see may not have been necessary if one of the couples had not made the mistake of taking the relationship to the stage of marriage. Divorce hurts not just the parties that took the path; the children that came out of that union will also experience it.
There are mistakes you can make in life and get away with it; there are some that will trap you and never let your life remain the same. I have listed here some of those mistakes that are common with singles; you may have made those mistakes, but as long as you haven’t taken the relationship to the stage of marriage, there is still hope.
Here is a continuation of the subject of discussion from last week edition-
Bringing their old baggage into the new relationship- One mistake common with singles that have experienced a failed relationship, is bringing the baggage of that relationship to the new one. They get into a new relationship without first taking care of themselves; they come in with all manner of faulty mindset and expect the new relationship to succeed.
To Tony women are bitches; all the women he knew in the past that he showed his love on, ended up cheating on him. The one that hurt the most was his last relationship; he loved Silvia to a fault. She had come in when his life was in a mess when Cynthia left him; she had gotten married behind his back without her hinting him that she was two timing on him. Silvia came in shortly after this relationship ended; however, Tony couldn’t just bring himself to the point of trusting her because of his experience. Over and over again, he would say to her that women can’t be trusted; women are bitches. When he sees her talking to her male friend, he would suck and whine all through the time they are together. Three months into the relationship, Silvia called it quit; her reason for leaving was that she can’t continue in a relationship that she is generalized with other bad eggs because they are of the same gender.
No relationship will succeed in the atmosphere of distrust; allow your heart get healed before you go into another relationship. Relationship that people get into without allowing time to heal the wound is called transitional relationship; it rarely survives to the stage of marriage.
The mistake of familiarity- I wrote on my wall on facebook the following, the beautiful ones are already here, but the perfect ones will never see the light of this world. One mistake that is so common with singles is looking far for whom to look for as a partner- I call this, the trap of familiarity. The beautiful ones are here, but they have flaws that you can see and that are what makes them unique. There is no real diamond that doesn’t have its flaw.
Shola would have been married long ago if she had not made the mistake of not considering her life with Dennis together; they had been childhood friends who had grown up together in the same neighborhood. When he professed his love for her about 4 years ago, she didn’t even give his proposal a thought. She knew him too well; she knew his flaw (he is quite emotional) and when she was asked by her friends on the issue of Dennis, her response was that if Dennis is the last man on earth is will rather go and become a nun,
When he kept asking for her response, she found it disgusting and told him that she had only seen him as a friend and don’t even think about living the rest of her life with him. Two years later, Dennis moved on; he found love in the arms of Seun (he, Shola. John and Seun had been really good friends from their childhood days), and not long afterwards they got married.
It was a year after Dennis got married that it dawn on her what she had missed; she saw how he lovely treated his wife and child. The guy that she was crazy about ended up leaving her for another lady after three years of courtship.
Singles easily make the mistake of looking down on prospective partners because they had gotten familiar with that individual; the believe is that what is far off, shrouded in mystery is far better than what has become common to them. However, I hold a strong opinion that it’s better to get married to someone you have known for some time, who is you friend. Don’t make this mistake, least after marriage; you discover that you have married a stranger.
Do you have a question on any relationship issue or do want to receive my monthly text messages? Send a text with your email address and get a free e-book; your confidentiality will be kept.
Olufemi Fasanya
08037257479
We all are prone to making mistakes in life; however, there are mistakes that have grave consequence. If such mistakes are made it will have a vibrating effect even to the future of the one who made it. Every mistake has a consequence; however, the repercussion of mistakes defers.
I really need to pass this to everyone that will be privilege to read this write up the word I heard Reverend Sam Adeyemi made; he said, ‘Experience is the best teacher o yes; but other peoples experience is the best teacher.’ I quite agree with him; you don’t have to learn something from experience, it may leave you with a scar that may be with you till death.
Here is the story and some of the write up on the last edition- John was one of the numerous young men who believe that a woman will succumb to them based on African tradition that gives the man unlimited power on how to run his own home. He saw that his dad was in charge at home; when he comes in (his dad) every one behaves like saints because of his authoritative nature. He was the carbon copy of his dad; looks, the air of authority and the rock like tendencies when he has made his decision on any matter.
However, presently he is having challenges with his wife because unlike his mum, she has become very expressive of her opinion on any issue. She would say what she wants done without owing him any apology and get it done. Malta had thought that over time he’ll drop some of his imposing attitude; since he was unwilling to change, she had made up her mind to damn the consequence of John’s action on any issue. She had bluntly refused to resign her appoint as he had threaten her to, nor is she willing to be kicked around the way his dad does to his mum.
There is one reality that I believe that is visible to every singles that will read this write up, and it’s the fact that marriages are collapsing at an alarming rate. I believe that most of divorce we see may not have been necessary if one of the couples had not made the mistake of taking the relationship to the stage of marriage. Divorce hurts not just the parties that took the path; the children that came out of that union will also experience it.
There are mistakes you can make in life and get away with it; there are some that will trap you and never let your life remain the same. I have listed here some of those mistakes that are common with singles; you may have made those mistakes, but as long as you haven’t taken the relationship to the stage of marriage, there is still hope.
Here is a continuation of the subject of discussion from last week edition-
Bringing their old baggage into the new relationship- One mistake common with singles that have experienced a failed relationship, is bringing the baggage of that relationship to the new one. They get into a new relationship without first taking care of themselves; they come in with all manner of faulty mindset and expect the new relationship to succeed.
To Tony women are bitches; all the women he knew in the past that he showed his love on, ended up cheating on him. The one that hurt the most was his last relationship; he loved Silvia to a fault. She had come in when his life was in a mess when Cynthia left him; she had gotten married behind his back without her hinting him that she was two timing on him. Silvia came in shortly after this relationship ended; however, Tony couldn’t just bring himself to the point of trusting her because of his experience. Over and over again, he would say to her that women can’t be trusted; women are bitches. When he sees her talking to her male friend, he would suck and whine all through the time they are together. Three months into the relationship, Silvia called it quit; her reason for leaving was that she can’t continue in a relationship that she is generalized with other bad eggs because they are of the same gender.
No relationship will succeed in the atmosphere of distrust; allow your heart get healed before you go into another relationship. Relationship that people get into without allowing time to heal the wound is called transitional relationship; it rarely survives to the stage of marriage.
The mistake of familiarity- I wrote on my wall on facebook the following, the beautiful ones are already here, but the perfect ones will never see the light of this world. One mistake that is so common with singles is looking far for whom to look for as a partner- I call this, the trap of familiarity. The beautiful ones are here, but they have flaws that you can see and that are what makes them unique. There is no real diamond that doesn’t have its flaw.
Shola would have been married long ago if she had not made the mistake of not considering her life with Dennis together; they had been childhood friends who had grown up together in the same neighborhood. When he professed his love for her about 4 years ago, she didn’t even give his proposal a thought. She knew him too well; she knew his flaw (he is quite emotional) and when she was asked by her friends on the issue of Dennis, her response was that if Dennis is the last man on earth is will rather go and become a nun,
When he kept asking for her response, she found it disgusting and told him that she had only seen him as a friend and don’t even think about living the rest of her life with him. Two years later, Dennis moved on; he found love in the arms of Seun (he, Shola. John and Seun had been really good friends from their childhood days), and not long afterwards they got married.
It was a year after Dennis got married that it dawn on her what she had missed; she saw how he lovely treated his wife and child. The guy that she was crazy about ended up leaving her for another lady after three years of courtship.
Singles easily make the mistake of looking down on prospective partners because they had gotten familiar with that individual; the believe is that what is far off, shrouded in mystery is far better than what has become common to them. However, I hold a strong opinion that it’s better to get married to someone you have known for some time, who is you friend. Don’t make this mistake, least after marriage; you discover that you have married a stranger.
Do you have a question on any relationship issue or do want to receive my monthly text messages? Send a text with your email address and get a free e-book; your confidentiality will be kept.
Olufemi Fasanya
08037257479
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