Femi Fasanya singlesaffair1@yahoo.com, +2348037257479, +2348083906405
Interestingly every human on the face of the earth, all have one craving and that is the desire to be successful in every endeavor they get involved in. This desire has resulted in the production of films and publications on success in areas such as marriage, chosen career, politics, etc.
Since this write up is on relationships, you will find lots of love stories, both animated and otherwise, about how love can make a relationship lead to a successful marriage. The presence or absence of love then is a deciding factor for most people when going into a relationship that hopefully will lead into marriage. The problem with these stories however, is that they conceal the fact that there are no marriages without challenges. Many have gotten married with a mental image of beauty and the beast story, believing that a kiss will turn a beastly man into a prince; experience soon taught them however that the reverse was the case, the beast remained a beast. In real life scenario, a kiss after saying I do, never turns an irresponsible fellow into a responsible one.
I need to awake you to the reality that success doesn’t come easily; it’s a product of wisdom and hard work. If you really desire to have a successful marriage in future, there is a need to be practical, open minded and wise in the kind of person that you date and chose to eventually marry. I love a statement made by Poju Oyemade, which says said we are all ignorant in all subjects of life. I have met singles who are too smart for their own good; they carry an air of I know what I want, and I don’t need other people’s opinion on the issues of my relationship. It hurts when I meet singles like these, with this air around them, because I have over the years come to realize that people who have challenges in their marriage the most are those who wouldn’t listen to other people’s sincere opinions about their relationships when they were singles. This makes the Nigerian proverbial saying true that, ‘The dog that will get lost will not listen to the whistle of the hunter (its owner).’
Before you say I do, please consider the following questions and answer them truthfully not sincerely; the reason is because you can be sincerely wrong but can’t be truthfully wrong. Here are some of the questions that you need to look into…
How alive is your past (have you let go of your former lover)?
How forgiving are you?
Do you have control over your sexual appetite (don’t be deceived that sex is a hold on men, it will only leave you with a man who will never trust you.)?
What do you know about conflict management? Have you discovered your purpose for living?
Can you discern when your motive for doing a thing is wrong and then make a u-turn to do the right thing?
How much of the opposite sex do you know?
Who are your friends (the companies you keep go a long way to determine who gets attracted to you)?
Are you trustworthy (can you be trusted with words, money and sex?)?
Are you productive or still dependant on people for your livelihood?
Do you know your role as a potential husband/wife?
Are you secretive about your past/open about it? Are you patient to study a thing/ you just get things done by impulse?
What have you learnt from your parents’ marriage?
Do you have any spiritual challenge(s) in your family?
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