Who is behind that mask?

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It’s so easy to fall in love with an exotic lady; beautiful, alluring, educated and sexy (most men are not honest enough that sexy is part of their criteria for a choice of partner.). Once a man sight a lady that physically appeals to him, a part of him wants to grab before other daring men decide to take the leap. Prove me wrong; women who put on alluring clothing attract more attention than women who dress decent.

I feel that every man who is single should learn to operate on using their brains rather than their groin. One question that the brain will try to find an answer for is the question, who is behind the mask? That is the question to answer before you talk about relationship with the opposite sex that may lead to marriage. Below is a story to buttress my point…

Dare met Jane in the party of a dear friend, she was beauty personified. Though other guys were after her, yet she picked interest in him and sticked to him till the end of the party. He got to know a lot about her afterwards, he discovered that she was intelligent, ambitious and hard working. He however, found out that whenever he wants to make a proposal for a more intimate relationship than the one they have, there was unease in him. He seems to believe that there is more about her that she was hiding from him.

Dan one of Dare’s friend was the one that reveal the likely reason why he had unease within him about Jane when he attended a get together organized by his company which her organization is one of their subsidiary. She was one of those that represented her organization. He heard her staff members talking about her beauty, but how cheap she was. They quietly talked about the number of men in her organization who she had sex with because of her ambition to get to the top. When David told Dare about this discovery, he did his investigation and found out that it was true. He still maintained a level of friendship with her until she got married to another man.

When stories like this are written, women are easily seen as irresponsible, this is not the impression that I want to give. The essence of this article is for the men to get it into their brains that physical attraction such as good physique, charisma, etc, though good, should not be the primary reason for getting into intimate relationship with the opposite sex. Often times there are more to a person than meet the eye; Peter Deneries said, “The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with the personality, but we must live with a character.”

Permit me to ask you a question if you are in a relationship already, how much of your partner do you know? Who are her friends? What are her flaws? Do you believe that she will stay true to her marital vow of men faithful to you? Beyond all that looks and finesse she exhibits who really is behind that mask?

I was once single (I have being married for over 5years), and their were women who I found attractive but didn’t get married too; it doesn’t imply that they were evil, untrustworthy, ugly etc. However, to have a successful marriage, there are secondary and primary issues that ones need to consider which is a core determinant every man that is single should consider. The primary issues include knowing her commitment to the religion she belongs too; can she be an effective helpmate in ones life; god character; emotional stability and being productive. Secondary issues are her looks; her shape; finesse, etc.

Collins Joan said is true that, “The problem with beauty is that it is like being born rich and getting poorer.”

The note made by the author of Dake Annotated Bible of King Solomon's advice to you says, “Grace of manner is deceitful and beauty of form and feature will fade, but the woman that fears the Lord shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

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